I sent a text to one of my main gals not long ago that said, “Why do I want to be a mom like, right this very minute? Is it because it’s the holidays? Because it’s my time of the month? Help me.”
She responded with a very sound, “It’s probably all of the above. You are happy, in love, living in a different city like a total adult, holidays, hormones, all of it. It will pass and come back over and over. And when its time it will happen.”
She is my Yoda.
She also got me thinking about what I’m thankful for and why, and also what I need to be better with, which inspired me to write out a post, and in due time with Thanksgiving being tomorrow, titled What I’m Thankful For Wednesday:
- I’m thankful for Felix. My boyfriend. My friend. The one who goes out to buy Ben & Jerry’s for me at 8pm on a Tuesday.Sometimes I am a total pill to deal with. I can be hormonal, too independent for my own good, and sassy. He doesn’t deal with it, he calls me out on it, which is what I need. A reality check. I’m thankful for him, everything he does for me, and his constant support. Even if he doesn’t know how to handle my random outburst of tears in the Target parking lot.I need to work on showing my appreciation for him more. I need to say thank you and I love you and respect his process and need to relax on the sofa after a long day with twenty minutes of uninterrupted Reddit browsing without asking, “What’s wrong?!” every four seconds.
- I’m thankful for how my mother raised me. She didn’t coddle me. She had me work for what I wanted. She told me I was beautiful, but that it’s also important to be educated. She’s supported me and still does with absolutely everything. Coming to every play, always being there to answer the phone when I need to talk, always telling me she loves me. She’s my best friend. She’s my Lorelai.I need to visit her more. I need to buy a plane ticket and go home and hug my mom. And my brother. I need to always remember my roots, no matter where this life takes me.
- I’m thankful for my jobs. When I was a teacher in New Orleans, I spent my days angry, annoyed, and lacking Vitamin D, which made me feel sad. I liked the paychecks, I loved my students, but I didn’t feel good about the work I was doing. Now, I teach two classes a week with adorable students who have involved parents. I am the Marketing and Social Media Specialist for the company I teach with, which allows me to connect with people in the community and sharpen my social media skills. I also intern for an entertainment magazine, which not only builds my writing portfolio, but gives me the inside scoop on the happenings in the DMV before most people know about it. My jobs are cool. My jobs make a difference. My jobs let me spend time with other people like me who are fun, professional, and motivated.
I need to remember the above all of the time, even on days when I complain about unpaid work or being tired or not feeling fulfilled because sometimes I think I’m Alexander Hamilton and I’ll never be satisfied.
- I’m thankful for where I live. Felix, the pets, and I live on the tenth story in an apartment building with a view of the Potomac in the heart of Old Town, which is straight out of a Hallmark movie. I miss New Orleans everyday, but where I am now is damn near perfect, and I need to be more thankful for it.
- I’m thankful for the cooler weather, because it makes my hair look great and gives me a desire to cook. Since the weather turned, we’ve had fresh muffins every week, lasagna, and roasted apple pork chops. It’s a win for all of us (and my hair). Did I mention my hair?
- I’m thankful for my friends, old and new. Even though starting over in a new place is terrifying and exciting and sometime lonely, the people I’ve met through work and play are wonderful.
I need to be better about keeping in touch with my friends in New Orleans and letting people in faster in DC. Long distance anything isn’t easy. Long distance friendships are work, and sometimes I need to be better about nurturing mine.
The list could go on and on in regards to what I’m thankful for, but especially with how I can improve myself.
Bottom line is, life is good. I’m happy, I’m motivated, and for some reason the universe has thrown wonderful people my way and they’ve stuck around.
Aside from my jobs and this apartment, the most important things in my life are the people.
I love you, I love you, I love you, and I’m thankful for you.
Happy Thanksgiving, y’all.