Could you imagine sitting down and chatting with your younger self? If you could talk with your younger self, what would you say?
If I were able to talk to Kaitlyn at age 6, I would do it in a heartbeat.
I’d make us a bowl of Neapolitan ice cream (extra strawberry), we’d wear slippers with our favorite cartoons on them, and we’d sit on the kitchen floor and talk.
I’d ask her what she loved doing the most. Her answers would probably be “spending time with mom,” or “going to dancing school,” or “swimming at my friend’s house.”
I’d ask her what she feared the most. Her answers would probably be “losing my mom,” or “falling down while riding my bike.”
They wouldn’t be feeling like a failure at the age of twenty-six or that one guy from art class not liking me back.
I’d ask her what she wanted to be when she grew up, and she’d say, “a marine biologist! No, a singer! No, like mommy!”
I was fickle even then.
Today is National Day of the Girl, a day where we uplift young women in our lives and in our communities and remind them that they’re strong and powerful and smart and beautiful and wonderfully made and that they can do anything they set their minds too.
If I were able to talk to Kaitlyn at age 6 today, I would tell her that her round face is perfect, that boy she has a crush on likes her too, but that doesn’t even matter because what he thinks doesn’t define you, the people who called you fat are mean and there are mean people in this world, but it’s how we respond to them that matters.
I would tell her to keep loving ice cream, because it’s delicious and special and reminds her of her Granny. I would tell her to love her body and not spend precious moments of her life scrutinizing it. I would tell her to live for herself and no one else, because it’s your life and you’re worthy of happiness.
I would tell her that her sass will take her places. Her facial expressions will get her noticed and she shouldn’t hide behind them. I would tell her that she’s talented and has many passions, and she should follow all of them or none of them, as long as she’s doing what she wants.
I would tell her that I love her.
I would hug her tighter than I’ve ever hugged anyone and tell her that I’m proud of her.
Stick with it, I’d say.
Stay strong and get stronger.
I love you.